The Naughty Dark Room: Everything You Need to Know

We have a multitude of rooms in our Tantra Center (see here for a breakdown of each room), but the Dark Room is a special room for a few reasons.

Consent is an important topic at our event (and in the months leading up to our event). And our policies on Consent do not go out the window, just because you are in the Dark Room. In fact, practicing consent is even more important in the Dark Room.

What is the Dark Room?

The Dark Room is a playroom in the Tantra Center that has no lights and you can’t see who is there.

Many people like the Dark Room because they can have anonymous sex without knowing who their play partner is. Bisexual men like to use this room if they want to experiment without people watching them. Some like this room because their other 4 senses really perk up when you remove one of your senses (sight).

Whatever the reason, the room is very popular, but it also has its challenges, especially for new people who don’t know what to expect and they get unwanted touching and groping. Worse yet, some might think “anything goes” and they can do things like penetration without permission. 

That is not the case. Doing so could have you removed from the event. We will have a sign on both sides of the room with guidelines for the Dark Room. We are going to post a monitor at the entrance to the Dark Room who will make sure every person understands our policies before entering.

Dark Room Guidelines:

·      Consent still matters inside this room.

·      Verbal consent is necessary for any penetration, kissing, or touching beyond accidental contact.

·      You must understand that by going inside, you will most likely be touched by someone and you have to be ok with people bumping into you and possibly touching you by accident.

·      This does not mean you can reach out and start touching someone once you bump into them.

·      If you want to go further, simply ask for permission before going further.

·      If they don’t say “Yes” everything else is a no.

·      Silence is a no.

·      Maybe later is a no.

·      I’m not sure is a no.

·      Again, only an enthusiastic “Yes” is permission to go further.

·      If you want to Kiss or have any penetration, you must ask first.

·      Just because they said yes to your touch, does not mean they want to have sex. Confirm before proceeding.

·      If you have any issues, please see the Staff member outside the room.

If there is a complaint, our Staff Members will go inside and remind everyone what the policies are to make sure it does not happen again. If it is a serious issue, the staff member can shut down the room and turn on the lights in order to find out who caused the serious issue.

 If we cannot find out who the person is, (it is dark in there and sometimes it can be hard to identify someone), we will close the Dark Room and ask everyone to leave for an undetermined amount of time.

If you are concerned about touching and consent, then this room may not be for you. You may want to stay in well-lit rooms that offer you the ability to see everyone in the room and better negotiate with people.

If you want to try the Dark Room, please know that you have the same rights inside as any of our other playrooms. Be confident and stay true to your boundaries. We recommend holding the hand of your partner if they are with you and using a soft voice (whisper) to do your negotiating.

Some events have Glory Holes. Glory Holes are another place where there is a certain amount of implied consent. The Dark Room is somewhere between a normal playroom and a room with Glory Holes.

While we try to create lots of different experiences for our attendees, we are never going to allow “implied consent” in any of our play spaces. Everyone needs to feel safe and we go to a lot of effort to ensure that our Tanta Center has the safest possible play spaces.

We will have Naughty Ambassadors in purple shirts to help clean up, answer questions and help create a safe, sensual space for our attendees. We are also bringing in Safer Sex Advocates (SSA), from SaferSex.com to monitor our play spaces. They will be wearing green shirts and will be easily identifiable. And will not be cleaning or changing sheets. Their only job is to help de-escalate issues and report problems to Safer Sex Professional (SSP) who will be on call for any issues that may arise.

So please consider all the points in this blog before entering the Dark Room, but if you want to have an incredible experience, in complete darkness, then come inside, and see why so many repeaters love this room.