Staying in Touch with Your Lifestyle Friends

People in this lifestyle make the best friends! Maybe it’s our shared love for sex and experimentation? Or perhaps it’s our honest approach to communication or the fact that we take the time to discuss things like consent and boundaries in an open and respectful manner. For some reason, when you make friends in the lifestyle, you’ll find people that will be your friends forever. Some of the people we’ve met at lifestyle parties, events, and clubs, have become the very same people we’ve turned to in times of need, who have been there to pick us up when we’re down and come through in huge ways. Just like any relationship, friendships are work, they take nurturing, commitment, and communication.

It’s easy to let connections slip through the cracks with our work schedules, kids, and lives outside of the lifestyle taking precedence. Staying in touch with the friends you make in the lifestyle is important when you want to stay in the loop, meet more like-minded people, and have a support system around you that family and vanilla friends just can’t provide.

Here are a few tips on nurturing your lifestyle friendships:

1 - Get a Naughty Membership

Our Naughty Membership site is a private, protected, online space where you can connect, explore and post all the fun, Naughty things you want without the risk of being censored or kicked off for your content. On this site, you can see who’s going to upcoming Naughty Events, chat with other members both privately and in chat rooms, you can post nude & explicit photos, also as a Naughty Member you’ll receive special discounts on events. Keep in touch with the people you meet at our Naughty Events (because they are likely Naughty Members), be sure to get their screen names, share your memories and keep in contact between events. Learn more and become a Naughty Member here.

2 - Go to Parties & Events Together

Once you have each other’s contact info and you’re on the Naughty Members site, you can start planning your next get-together! Browse the upcoming events, takeovers, and parties on the site and plan which ones you're going to. Check out the Newsfeed to see what events people are talking about, what everyone is wearing, and excited to experience. We believe in the power of numbers and experiencing events and destinations together will not only strengthen the bond between you & your partner but will also help you create memories and friendships that you thought you’d never have.

3 - Ask Questions

The more you know the better—especially when exploring an open relationship. Whether you’re online on the Naughty Members Site or you’re at an actual event, you’re going to meet couples on all points of the lifestyle spectrum; newbies, seasoned veterans, couples with different types of rules, couples who like to play, couples who don’t, and everything in between. If you’re curious about the dynamic, it’s always a good practice to just ask. The more you learn from other people in the lifestyle and hear about their experiences, the more you can apply this to your relationship. You’re exploring something kind of unique, usually, most of us can’t or choose not to turn to our family and vanilla friends for relationship advice, so being able to go to your lifestyle friends who are more familiar with the type of relationship issues you might have, is a plus and makes these connects very special.

4 - Be Supportive

We have to be there for each other. Not everyone is going to agree with or understand your mindset, so when you’re not feeling supported by those closest to you, you can almost always count on your lifestyle friends to show you unconditionally, judgment-free love and support. Always lend a helping hand when you can, an ear to listen, and an open heart. Just because the lifestyle is mostly about fun and enjoying life in a certain way, doesn’t mean it’s always easy, when the going gets tough, be there for your lifestyle friends and let them be there for you.

5 - Show Respect

Every couple has its own set of rules and boundaries. And those rules and boundaries are subject to change at any given moment—and that’s ok! We need to understand each other, have patience, and each other’s rules. Whether it has to do with the bedroom, staying in contact, or being at events together, be sure to communicate with each other, be honest, follow each other’s rules and support each other. That is the recipe for an awesome and very Naughty relationship.