Naughty Playroom Etiquette

We always post the play floor rules and etiquette, to make sure everyone is on the same page and to help set a standard of expectations. This year, there is more to think about, so we decided to put them all here in a blog dedicated to the playrooms.

Goal: Our playrooms are a natural extension of our classes, seminars, and workshops. We provide a safe space to learn about sexuality, and how to safely expand your fantasies with your partner. After attending one (or many) of our classes, you will have a safe space to try out what you learned in a beautiful private space with an amazing staff to help ensure your health and safety.

Observation: We have been to MANY different lifestyle events around the country and we have noticed that a lot of playrooms do not have much participation. We have developed our rules and etiquette as a way to promote more play and more interaction and we are happy to say that our playroom floor is one of the most active, if not the most active we have ever seen.

We found the following three things to be the reasons most playrooms do not have activity: 

1. People come in and out fully clothes. People with clothes are not committed to playing, they are more likely to look around to see what is going on and then leave. This creates an evening of transient people coming and going with barely anyone participating. The No street clothes rule has made a huge difference in the amount of activity on the play floor.

Committing to undressing or dressing down, removes the spectators from the people who are really interested in playing.

2. No drinks allowed. We also see that people with drinks in their hands are more likely to socialize than play. Bringing drinks to the play floor creates a natural tendency to stand in the hall, while drinking and talking. This makes it harder for people to get through and can disrupt the “mood” in rooms when a lot of talking is taking place.

Once people finish their drinks, they usually go back for another drink and then return to stand in the hallway until their drinks are finished before repeating the cycle. This makes the play floor more transient than we would like and often becomes a disruption.

We do provide water coolers and at midnight, we supply a fair amount of pizzas for people since many have been drinking and having fun. It is a good option for those needing a late-night snack.

3. Having an amazing Staff. We have been to many events that were understaffed or not staffed at all. Having quality people on-site helps keep our play floor clean and therefore more appealing to attendees and more places ready to explore.

Our staff removes used sheets, uses sanitizer to clean the protective covers on the mattresses, and then they put new sheets down between every couple. We have not seen this level of service at any other event.

Our staff is also on hand to explain the rules, hand out towels, and keep people quiet in the hallways. 

With the addition of quality staff and rules targeted to combat the other two distractions listed above, we have created one of the safest spaces possible for open-minded people to explore their own sexuality in a beautiful and clean space.

Plan: We take an area of the hotel that will be set aside, with restricted access with private and semi-private spaces where you can play with your partner or choose to play with others if that is your intention. Our space has nine large rooms, each with different themes, where you can practice what you have learned and be creative.

Staff: Our staff will be on hand to assure everyone is following the rules and guidelines and that the place is clean, sanitized, and safe. Our staff will be wearing purple T-Shirts with Naughty N’awlins Staff printed on the front and a consent reminder on the back.

Rules & Guidelines: 

• No Street clothes: You can wear lingerie, underwear, robes, a towel, or anything else that is sexy, but not any street clothes, jeans, or anything else you could wear out on the street.

If you only have street clothes with you, we will have bags available on M2 that you can put your clothes into. We will give you a towel to use and you can explore the floor in your underwear, make sure you put your name on the bag, in case you lose it so we can help you find it.

• Couples In & Couples Out:  We are first and foremost a couples-only event, so we need couples to stay together. We always have issues with one of the couples heading upstairs and leaving their partner behind. Then we have a single person floating around by themselves and if we find this, we will ask the single person to leave the floor and they can only come back when they come back with their partner.
  

• Consent: Consent is mandatory and we mean verbal consent. Back in the day, it was acceptable to “reach out and touch someone” without asking permission, but those days are over. If you want to play with someone, ask them. If you are not interested in someone, let them know with a simple “No, thank you” and that is it. 

No means no. Do not ask again and again. Respect other people’s decisions and choices and do not keep asking them. If you are harassing anyone, we will ask you to leave.

If someone is intoxicated, they cannot consent. Please look out for other people in our community and let someone on our staff know if someone seems intoxicated and needs to go to their room.

• Be considerate of other people’s space & privacy: Try not to get into other people’s spaces. Most of our beds will have pipe-and-drape all the way around the beds. Three sides will always be draped closed and the front will be pulled open, but you can close the curtains to make your space completely private.

If curtains are closed, do not open them or peek in. Respect people’s privacy and look for another bed or another couple. If the couple has closed the sheers, but not the curtains, you can look through the sheer curtains, but please do not move them aside, peek in or enter their private space. Some people like to watch or be watched and we encourage this, as long as respect and consent are always maintained.

• No outside drinks or food: We will bring out a round of pizzas at midnight for anyone who wants some, but please do not bring any additional drinks or food onto the play floor. There will be water stations and plastic cups available for anyone that is thirsty. If you come to the floor with a drink in a glass, our staff will ask you to finish it in order to enter. Be careful where you put your plastic cup (no matter what is inside it), so it doesn’t spill or get kicked over.

• Use condoms: We encourage the use of condoms with any unknown partners. Safe sex is the best sex.

Theme Rooms

We have provided several different spaces for your to play and explore. Here is a list with descriptions:

Dungeon: Our dungeon is located on the 2nd floor, outside our main parties, and will have all kinds of sexy demonstrations going on every night. We will have flogging, violet wand (electric play), spanking, and a variety of BDSM techniques and scenes on display.

You can also participate yourself. We will have dungeon monitors on-site to help explain the equipment and even lend you toys and devices you can try out. It is a great way to take the knowledge you learned in our daily BDSM classes and put them to use before heading home. 

The rest of the playrooms are located on M2 (or 2M) depending on which sign you see.

Tantra Room: This room is where we have many of our Tantra sessions during the day. The room is set up in a U shape, with beds and no curtain dividers. The decorations are very Indian in design with Kama Sutra images and tapestries. 

We encourage those interested in Tantra to come here each night and practice what they learned in the daily classes.

Group Room: This is our largest room with over 18 king beds set up in sections of four beds to make our largest play areas. This is where we have massage classes during the day.

This is where the largest parties happen and where the need for verbal consent is the most important (it is always important) because there will always be a lot of people in a small area.

The Crystal Room: We have a beautiful room set up with white sheers and crystal curtains. This is one of the prettiest rooms on the floor and has 6 beds.

The Dark Room: This is a total blackout room. You can’t see anything (or anyone) inside. This is for people that want to be totally anonymous. It is also a room where people will try things they may not try in the other rooms for fear of being judged. 

When you take away one of your five senses, it is amazing how the other senses become heightened. 

Bi-Sexual Room: This room is decorated with pink curtains and is specifically designed to be a safe space for Bi-Sexual play. While bisexuality among women has been popular at lifestyle clubs and events for years, there has always been a negative stigma put on bisexuality when it comes to men. 

This room is our answer to that problem and it gives both women and men a safe space to be themselves without judgment. If you are not comfortable with men playing together, you should avoid this room, or maybe come in for a little while to help you overcome your fears. Either way, this is a “Judgement Free Zone” so please respect those who do use this room.

Semi-Private Rooms: We have several Semi-Private Rooms with 6-8 beds each. These rooms are for those looking for a more private experience. Each bed is wrapped completely with curtains so you can close them if you wish or leave the transparent sheers so people can watch but not enter. Please respect people’s privacy in these rooms.

Plus One Room: This room is for couples that play with singles and singles looking to play. We allow singles, although the number is very small compared to the number of couples and triads attending. This room is a place for you to meet some of the singles (both men and women) at Naughty N’awlins.  It is a very popular room.