What Do You Do?

I know usually I talk about how busy it’s been, which is pretty much always. Recently I’ve been catching up with friends I haven’t talked to in a while, I get so focused on work, farm life, and family, you know the routine. I always take time to stop and catch up with what’s going on outside my bubble.

I can say the majority of my friends are in the lifestyle and it’s so normal to me, and just the other day I had vanilla friends visit from Florida and they have known me practically my whole life and they were asking me” So what do you have coming up?” They know what I do for a living, and they think it’s great. We joke that I’m like Where’s Waldo, I’m usually getting ready for another trip. When we talk, I bring up that it’s funny how people in the lifestyle when they go on trips, tell their vanilla friends or family that they are going somewhere different than where they are actually going. I do the same thing, you see most of my vanilla friends know what I do and when they see me on Facebook or Instagram traveling all over its normal, but the ones who don’t really know (like neighbors, local friends, my bank teller, or friends from when I was in school) I wonder what they think. I’ve told friends in passing that I “Work Events” and they are always like oh ok, I know it’s vague and they never really ask more into it like what kind of events? I always hear in my head the TiK Tok sound “They’re Gonna Know!”

I often wonder if the ones that do know, do they think “Yeah right, she and her husband are swingers, she isn’t fooling anyone.” I sometimes wonder what my husband’s friends and family think because they all know what I do and know I’m always traveling by myself. Do they think man, he must really trust her, or I would never let my wife do that.  I’m sure there is gossip going around in my small town.

 Yes, I get hit on by couples now and then, flitting here and there but there is so much respect. It is actually great telling people I’m vanilla cause it breaks the ice and so many flirty jokes (at my expense) that makes me feel comfortable. I don’t have to tell you that there is a difference between hanging with your vanilla friends and your lifestyle friends, explaining to new friends in the lifestyle that I’m vanilla is so much easier than explaining to vanillas that I work for lifestyle companies but I’m not in the lifestyle. It’s hard for me to explain to people what the lifestyle is about when they have no idea, or they already have a preconceived idea. I guess I’ll just keep people guessing, I don’t mind if I’m brought up in gossip topics, to me that just means I’m being thought about. I wonder what my neighbors and the mail lady would think if I painted a pineapple on my mailbox, I mean if you know, you know. See you at the next event!