How to Throw a Sexy Holiday Party
Are you the host or host couple and you’re looking to throw a banger of a lifestyle party? We might know a thing or two about that. The season of festivities calls for you to round up your adult gang and have a party that will definitely put you all on the Naughty list. Follow this short guide for some tips & tricks on making your party unique and sexy. Be sure you invite the right people. This may not be a party to invite the in-laws and distant cousins. Save this for your lifestyle friends and for open-minded friends. Here’s our guide on throwing a very Naughty holiday party.
Have a Theme
Having a theme always creates a little excitement around an event. It gets your guests planning, thinking about what to wear, and thinking of different concepts. Of course, it’s up to you how strict you want to be about it, some people aren’t into dressing in theme. But for those who like to participate, try having a fun theme that will encourage conversation and enjoyable experiences. Here are some theme ideas to get you started:
Ugly Sweater
Classic! Who doesn’t have a hilariously ugly sweater they can pull out? The uglier the better. Compare and contrast your sweater as you sift boozy drinks and exchange gifts of all types.
Naughty North Pole
Have your guests dress up as anything that could come from the North Pole; Santa, Mrs.Clause, elves, reindeer, snow people, you get the drift. This allows your guests to create a fun and sexy concept. By the time everyone shows up, you’ll have a full Naughty North Pole going on. That calls for a deep “ho, ho, ho!”
Holiday Colors
Don’t celebrate Christmas? Make your party all-inclusive by just having a “holiday colors” theme that helps represent all cultures. Whether it’s for Kwanzaa, Hannukah, Yule, or just have everyone get dressy and declare it a “semi-formally sexy” party, this creates a festive feeling and will definitely raise some spirits.
Create a playful environment
We’ve talked about rotransforming your hotel room into a playom at one of our events, and you can basically take those same tips and turn your entire living space into a Naughty experience. Here are the main things that will help give your space a Naughty feel that’s ready for playing:
Have a great playlist—here’s our signature Spotify playlist that we have on in our playrooms.
Sexy lighting - This is the perfect time to stock up on strings of twinkle lights and fun lighting sources. Create a sexy atmosphere with candles, sunset lamps, or create a cosmic vibe with one of these space lights that fill up the whole room.
Make it sensual - Little details like incense flowing through the air, lots of soft pillows, and soft areas to cuddle in will all help invite intimacy and create opportunities for play. Extra credit if you hide some mistletoe in your doorways and catch those kisses.
Gift Exchange
Everyone deserves something special this time of year. Be sure to set a spending limit in your invite to avoid any awkwardness and have your guests bring something. If you have a lot of people coming, have a gift game going so that everyone only has to purchase one gift for the party. Here are two fun ways of going about a gift exchange:
Secret Santa - Once you have your party guests figured out, organize a way to have everyone choose a random name from the group, no one can tell each other who they picked, make sure each gift is tagged with the recipient’s name, but not the gifter’s! Have the recipient guess who got them the gift at the party. Click here for more thorough directions.
White Elephant - Tess is the QUEEN of White Elephant parties—she hosts one every year, and usually, it’s hysterical! Set your spending limit, and tell everyone to buy 1 gift and bring it to the party. The gift isn’t meant for any specific person, so try to make it as broad/funny/useful as you want it. At the party, have your guests place their gifts in one spot, and give everyone a number or have them draw a number. Go in order, the first person that goes gets to unwrap any gift of their choosing (but only one), then the next person that goes gets to decide if they are stealing person #1’s gift or unwrapping another one. And so on and so forth. Click here for more thorough directions.
Play Games
Gotta have the games! Games are the gateway to playtime, they help break the ice and develop connections. Some of these games require touching or sharing personal/sexual information, so be sure your guests are clear about consent and boundaries before you start to play. Here’s our Consent Policy that you can use as the basis of yours in your home. Send this out to your guest list prior to the party so everyone has time to review your rules. Here are some Naughty game ideas you can play with your guests:
Strip Twister - Get all up on each other with this fun yet classic game. Decide on your clothing rules, divide into teams, roll out your Twister mat and start spinning the wheel. Create rules like, a person has to remove an article of clothing when they touch red or when/if they fall. Click here for the complete rules of Strip Twister.
Truth or Dare - This one allows your guests to get to know each other a little better and possibly be a little devious. Have a list of truth questions and dares on deck in case anyone is stumped. Go in some type of order to determine who goes first and who they are asking. Here’s a list of Dirty Truth or Dares you can reference.
Spin the Bottle - Pucker up! This game gets better the older and Naughtier we get. Grab a bottle, sit around, and spin. Things will really start to heat up after this. Don’t forget to ask if it’s ok, especially if you don’t know the person too well.
Serve Sexy Cocktails & Snacks
Make your guest’s spirits bright with great drinks and snacks they can enjoy throughout the night. Think Jello shots for fun ways to use your mouth, finger foods to feed each other, and dipping sauces that can be dribbled and drizzled all over. Here are a few tasty ideas:
Champagne Jello Shots Recipe
AphrodisiAPPS - Food like oysters, chocolate, strawberries, and spicy foods all act as aphrodisiacs and can easily be incorporated into your hors de oeuvres menus. Check out these snack ideas here.
Come Prepared
Give your guests a true feeling of security and safety by being well-stocked with plenty of condoms, lubes, clean towels, wipes, or anything else that can help clean up messes and prevent risk. Promescent is a great brand that makes condoms, lube, sex toys, massage oils, delay sprays, arousal gels, and more. Check out Promescent’s website and stock up for your Naughty holiday party!
