NAUGHTY GLOSSARY
There are a lot of terms under the polyamorous and sex-positive umbrella that create inclusivity and define the many facets of the lifestyle. Some are not clearly established or universally accepted, and terms, phrases, and labels can change depending on the social circle. We chose some words that help describe and define the Naughty lifestyle, some words are technical, others are terminology amongst those who follow and attend Naughty Events.
Do you define your sexual preferences? If so, what terminology do you use? Check out these Naughty definitions.
Ambiamory
Ambiamory is a relationship orientation that is between monogamy and polyamory. Just as bisexual people can enjoy being in heterosexual or homosexual relationships, Ambiamorous people can be happy in monogamous or polyamorous relationships. Not to be confused with “biamory,” which is the ability to fall in love with and have relationships with both genders.
Learn more about this:
“You’ve Heard of Polyamory, but What About Ambiamory?” - Kinkly
Candaulism
Sexual arousal from watching one’s spouse have sex with or engage in sexual activity with another person.
Carousing
The activity of drinking alcohol and enjoying oneself with others in a noisy, lively way. Ex: "a night of carousing at Naughty N’awlins."
Compersion
Often defined as "the opposite of jealousy." It is an empathetic state of happiness and joy spurred by another individual's experience of happiness and joy. It is often employed in the context of polyamorous relationships to describe the positive feelings experienced by a person when their lover is enjoying another relationship.
Learn more about this:
“What is compersion? The polyamory practice for Rethinking Jealousy” - mindbodygreen
Co-primary
A co-primary is a person who is one of two or more primary partners in a polyamorous relationship.
Learn more about this:
“Co-Primacy: Yes, You Can Have More Than One Primary” - Poly Land
Co-marital
The consenting of married couples to exchange partners. Comarital is an adjective describing relationships occurring outside marriage. Comarital relationships differ from marriages where cheating occurs because they occur with spousal consent.
Ethical Non-Monogamy
Ethical non-monogamy is an approach to relationships wherein people can have more than one romantic and sexual partner at a time, and everybody involved is aware and enthusiastically consents to the dynamic.
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Female Cuckold
A female (also known as cuckquean) who derives sexual pleasure from watching her partner (usually, but not exclusively, male) have sex with another person. Cuckolding is different from swinging or threesomes in that the cuckolded person does not participate.
Framily
A term originated by Bob & his friends in New Orleans as blending of the words friend + family. Framily is a tight-knit group of friends (some you may or may not have sex with) who are also like family.
Kitchen Table Polyamory
A style of polyamorous relationship in which the interrelationship of a network, and the integration of multiple romantic relationships into one life or group, is prioritized. Close relationships between metamours and/or telemours are strongly encouraged or required.
Metamour
Your partner’s other partner. Ex: Your girlfriend’s husband. You may be close to them as part of your polycule (see definition below), but you are not in a romantic or sexual relationship with them.
Learn More:
“Managing Metamours in Polyamorous Relationships” - Polyamory Today
Monogamish
The relationship style practiced by partners who are socially pair-bonded but whose agreements allow some degree of sexual connection with outside partners. The word was coined by columnist/activist Dan Savage.
Watch This:
“Monogamish” with Dan Savage and Esther Perel
Naughty
Disobedient or badly behaved. A way of describing something in a way that shouldn't be good, and yet somehow is. All of you sexy people reading this now. The motivating feeling that drives Naughty Events to create lavish, fun, exciting and tantalizing experiences for those who want to enjoy it.
Parallel Polyamory
A type of polyamorous relationship in which each individual relationship exists largely independent of either partner’s additional romantic or sexual relationships, and in which there is not an intentional focus on entwining the relationship network. Relationships between metamours is not required.
Polyamory
The practice of engaging in multiple romantic (and typically sexual) relationships, with the consent of all the people involved.
Polycule
A polycule is a romantic network composed of people who are closely connected. It is made up of a polyamorous person's lovers and partners. It can be as large as a dozen or more people, or as small as five or six, depending on the extent of the network and the number of partners one has.
Polyfidelity
A subset of polyamory in which more than two people, possibly two or more couples, form a sexually exclusive group. It is sometimes used as a safer-sex strategy.
Relationship Anarchy
Relationship anarchy refers to the practice of not following societal norms or society-dictated rules when it comes to having a relationship. The couple or multiple people involved in the relationship decide on defining their relationship, as well as regulating personal expectations and actions.
Swinger
Someone who consents to the switching of sexual partners. A swinger can be straight, bisexual, homosexual, married, or unattached. A swinger can swing anywhere, either in spontaneous venues where sexual exploration is possible or in swinger clubs where recreational sex is norm.
Swinging
Swinging refers to the practice of swapping partners in a sexual context. This practice can take place under a variety of circumstances such as informal gatherings between friends or in a more formal setting such as swingers clubs.
Switch Hitter
A switch hitter is a person who is sexually flexible. The phrase is a synonym for bisexual.
