THINGS 2020 MADE ME REALIZE
When the ball dropped on New Year's Eve 2019 going into 2020, my future plans were vivid, powerful goals that included traveling, spending more time exploring my city, getting engaged to a particular person (who is no longer in my life), road-tripping in hunt of amazing estate sales across the US and so on. I'm sure yours were too, filled with goals that could not be met due to the nature of this year. However, this year showed me a lot of things, about myself, about people I thought I knew, about my profession and the world in general. Although this wasn't the BEST year of my life, I don't write it off as the worst. Now that we're finally at the end of the year, I look back and these are some things I take away from 2020:
There is always going to be someone who disagrees with you
Always—and that's ok. I feel that 2020 has really divided people in many ways; politically, ethically, morally, and so on. You're right in one person's eyes and in the other's, you are so wrong. You can try to negotiate, debate, and argue with those who disagree with you, but in the end, it might not even be worth the energy. But one thing I've realized is that listening calmly to those who disagree with you can actually refine your knowledge and bring new perspectives to the situation. You may not agree with it, but now you know a different side of the story and can move forward with a fresh, sharpened perspective.
Learn more about yourself
Before 2020 decided to be a huge flop, I had already made a goal that this year I wanted to get to know myself better. What does that mean? How do you get to "know" yourself? I began by taking an ancestry test and taking a deep dive into my heritage and the ethnicities that made up me. From that, I asked family members about our history and learned so much about our family's journey and my ancestors before which answered a lot of questions I've always wanted to know. I wanted to refine my personal style; what are the best colors, silhouettes, and lines that look best on me. I took a Kibee Body Type Quiz and found out what my body type is and from that could determine what looks best on me. I've been editing my closet ever since. Lastly, if you're into this sort of thing; I'd recommend learning what your astrological chart is, it's actually pretty interesting to learn what your exact birthdate has to do with your personality and destiny. Little tip: your most important and telling signs will be your Sun, Moon and Ascending signs.
Making friends virtually is actually pretty awesome
I can officially say that I've made friends in Canada, Australia, the UK, and many places around the US and never had to leave home and most of them have seen me topless. Throughout the duration of the pandemic, I've been hosting virtual parties every Saturday night on Naughty Chat via Virtual Swing Party and have come to know so many amazing people from all walks of life and all corners of the globe. Every weekend, we log on, sip our drinks, play fun, sexy games, laugh and just talk like old friends. As time went on, a lot of the same people came back every weekend to hang out in our uncensored virtual world and we've grown close and the circle just gets bigger and bigger. I can't wait for the day I can meet these people in person and give them a giant hug! If you're feeling lonely and miss meeting new people definitely get yourself a Naughty Membership so you can join us every Saturday on Naughty Chat and make some new friends.
Sensual Domination is my JAM
I recently watched a virtual demonstration with Rev Rucifer and Dominus Eros on "Sensual Domination." I really didn't know what to expect, domination has always been something I found fascinating but could never bring myself to do. Now, my world has changed. Dominus Eros sweet-talked Rev Rucifer in the most sensual yet powerful way as he carefully tied her up in an intricate shibari style. Constantly asking her how she was doing, complimenting her body and her mind, checking in with her soul, making her moan with pleasure. It was sinfully good and I was so turned on. I found myself wondering who would I want to be in that scenario, her or him? I realized, in that sense, I could actually be dominant but not mean and aggressive (which is not in my nature), I can be sensual, complimentary and still dominate the scene. I wanted to play him—the sensual dominant, the only caressing and giving compliments with just a hint of authority. Ever since then, it's been something I've experimented with within the bedroom and I haven't gotten any complaints yet.
Protect your mental health at all costs
Whether we're in unprecedented times or just living our "normal" lives, our mental health has to be our top priority. This time has made me anxious, with family all across the US, friends I can't see and the constant debate of what's going on in this world, I've really allowed myself some "me time." I've had to learn to say no to things that aren't serving me or that I know will put me in a bad place. This time has made me do a lot of self-reflecting and assessing what I want to keep in my life and what I can let fall to the wayside. Take care of yourself! Like the old saying goes "You can't fill from an empty cup."
