COMMUNICATION AND THE PLEASURE LOOP

I choose lovers who are vocally articulate about their wants and needs regarding anything sexual - it's a necessary tool for all of us in order to maximize the pleasure available.

When I am engaged in sexual activity, as an example, cunnilingus, if I start doing something they don’t like they will correct me with words like "no, back to what you were doing", "too hard" or "harder" etc. I will quickly adjust without question. My goal is to create as much pleasure possible for my lovers. No one should have to endure an un-pleasurable experience because they are afraid to tell me they aren't enjoying what's going on.

Honestly, no one should have to endure bad sex because of lack comfort to communicate wants and needs in the moment. Using the feedback from lovers and encouraging them to vocalize their needs helps me feel confident and helps us both settle into the pleasure loop.

Your homework this week is to ask your lover about what you can adjust so you can give them more pleasure and respond with "Thank you, I'll try that". If this isn't something you do regularly, I suggest you try it first while not having sex, and eventually you will get comfortable enough to expand your pleasure loop in bed.

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