PUFF, PUFF, GIVE
The first time I had an orgasm I was stoned. It was also one of the first times I thoroughly enjoyed receiving oral. The music was chill, the lighting was perfect, he was sexy and the weed was divine. A few passes of a delicious perfectly rolled Swisher Sweet Grape blunt, a coughing attack, and a bottle of water later, we were all over each other, rolling around his bed, legs entwined and adrenaline pumping. The sound of the music began to overcome my senses and melted into our mouths and clasping hands. A tingling shock bolted through my body as he headed all the way down between my legs, and I fluttered with shyness and excitement.
At the time, oral wasn't my favorite thing—at least receiving. Nothing ever came from it (pun intended), and honestly, it just made me want to have sex more. I had also, never had an orgasm at this point in my life either. But there was something about this moment, this current passion I was swept up in that allowed me to release my inhibitions. I remember focusing on my breath, closing my eyes, clenching the bedsheets, and just surrendering to this euphoric feeling he was giving me that seemed to flow with the music as if it were a dance—which was some kind of awesome jazzy, lo-fi hip-hop mix he had discovered in his collection. And then he raised his head up from where he was, looked me in the eyes, crawled on top of me, and took me slowly. It took me about 5 minutes until I felt this building pressure, this great sensation that washed over me with every thrust and I kept thinking "just let go." And then in a pulsing, hot rush, I came! My body was electric, eyes watered (a signature telltale sign of mine) and I gave into every movement. It took me by surprise. I couldn't believe it, I remember feeling so excited and blown away that my body could feel and react in such a way. It was like discovering a new species or seeing a shooting star for the first time, I was baffled. We finished soon after that and laid there in naked, blissful silence and then he lit up the remainder of the blunt.
Being high added that extra sense of magic to this experience and I believe is what helped me achieve orgasm—and ok, he had skills too. This high made it feel like a movie—not porn—I mean like a beautiful scene out of a romantic drama, soundtrack, and all. It helped me relax, release any inhibitions and focus on the moment.
I've been smoking cannabis for almost half my life. I smoke socially, alone, when I'm traveling, while I'm working, all the time. It allows me to tap into my creativity, it helps me tame my anxiety from past traumas and it helps me focus on the details of the very moment and feel gratitude for it. Of course, I can feel all these things when I'm not stoned. But I think incorporating cannabis into my life has opened subconscious doors for me that I can't close. I've come to beautiful, scary, life-changing realizations while being high and pondering my own reality. It's helped me grow and become a free spirit. It truly is plant medicine.
There are more studies coming out all the time talking about the benefits of cannabis, for pain, anxiety, seizures, eating disorders, psychological issues, and even sexual health. We're seeing the legal systems of our country open up and accept its use. Depending on where you are, you may be lucky enough to have dispensaries around you. Cannabis is finally being seen for what it is and accepted by the masses. I hope to see this only improve as time goes on.
When it comes to sex, there are dozens of brands coming out that incorporate THC, CBD, or Hemp into things like lube, condoms, and body products to help increase satisfaction creating a new type of cannabis culture known as "Cannasexuals." According to Ashley Mantra, a sex educator who specializes in cannabis intimacy, "a Cannasexual is anyone who mindfully and deliberately combines sex and cannabis to deepen intimacy and enhance pleasure (source)." She also says that "THC is a vasodilator which means it brings more blood flow to the area—it's why your eyes get bloodshot when you smoke. So when you put something containing THC directly on the vagina, more blood flow comes to the area, which means more lubrication, greater arousal, and enhanced sensations." This is great because you won't get high, you'll just enjoy the physical benefits of THC—perfect for those who don't want to smoke but want to join in on the fun without any psychological symptoms.
But if you DO like smoking, Michelle Mendoza, a cannabis connoisseur and Head Buyer at Los Angeles’ Sweet Flower says "Of the strains widely purported to boost arousal and feelings of sexual desire are the Sativa-dominant hybrid, Blue Dream, Kryptonite (a 50-50 Hybrid), the Sativa-heavy Amnesia Haze, and a few Indica-dominant leaning hybrids like Wedding Cake and Bubblegum Kush. What most of these strains have in common is the presence of a few specific terpenes: Myrcene (known for its powerful sedative effects), Beta-Caryophyllene (a reliever of pain and anxiety), and the mood-elevator/stress-reliever, Limonene. (source)"
So the next time you want to try something a little different, maybe instead of reaching for a new toy, try to incorporate a little cannabis into your sex. Whether it's a puff of a joint or hit of a bowl, consuming a delicious edible treat, or maybe playing around with a new THC lube, getting yourself into an open, giving mindset will take you to a totally blissful, amazing place. I'm proud to say to you today, "Hello, I'm J9 and I'm a Cannasexual."
