How to Approach Other Couples

No matter your sexual preference or experience, introductions can always be a little awkward. Trying to find the perfect thing to say, introducing them to your partner and breaking the "what are you into?" ice are all packed into a few very brief but important moments.  Luckily our community is full of open-minded, friendly people who are more than willing to help guide new people through their first lifestyle experience. 

Naughty N’awlins and Virtual Naughty N’awlins, are great ways for lifestyle people to gather and meet. Use the following tips to help for smoother, less awkward introductions when meeting other couples.

Compliments go a long way 
If you like their outfit, hair, tattoo, the way they dance, whatever it is, tell them. Allow that to be the introduction. It's a friendly and subtle flirty way of making an introduction. Continue to compliment them as you get to know them, let them know what it is you like about them and why. The more you get to know each other, the sexier it gets. 

Get to know them 
The people you meet at lifestyle events are normal, everyday people with lives outside of the sex positive lifestyle—remember that. If you find that you're at a loss for words, ask them some open-ended questions: "where are you from," "what kind of music do you like," "what hobbies do you have," you get the idea. Get them talking about something familiar and safe so they feel more comfortable around you. 

Always ask for consent. 
Not just when you're meeting new people, at all times. We say this here because in our lifestyle, it's not unusual to meet people in a sexual environment right off the bat i.e., our Naughty Chat, playrooms, the dance floor, at a clothing optional party, or in the dungeon. So if you are interested in dancing with, kissing, touching, spanking or anything else that involves being physical, always ask for consent first. 

Talk about what you're interested in 
Let them know what you like and what you're looking for. Looking to hook up? Let them know. Just being a voyeur for the night? You should tell them that. Open and direct communication is the best way to avoid negatively awkward situations and is respectful of the other person's time and effort. 

Discuss your rules 
Everyone has their boundaries, when meeting new people/couples, be sure to discuss your do's and don'ts before you begin to explore. This can be anything from dirty talk to trading partners. Don't let the excitement of the moment get in the way of good manners. 

Be honest and considerate
There will come a time when you are approached by someone who you will not be interested in. Do not feel bad about kindly declining their offer, but the key is being kind. Be considerate of the language you're using when declining. For example, instead of saying "I just don't find you attractive," say "Thank you so much for the offer, but we're not feeling a connection."  If you don't feel a sexual connection, but you really enjoy their company, offer another suggestions like grabbing a drink together. Many friendships are made in the lifestyle simply because everyone was open, honest and upfront with each other. 

Accept Rejection Politely 
Alternately, if you are the one being told "no," kindly accept and move on. Just because you are at a lifestyle event does not guarantee you a sexy time. If someone declines your offer, do not guilt them, beg them or make them feel bad, that's not the way it works in the lifestyle and makes everyone involved uncomfortable. Ultimately you want people who want you, you deserve that. Look at the rejection as an opportunity to make room for someone who does want your time and attention. 

Try meeting online first 
Get a sneak-peek at who is showing up to Naughty Events by becoming a Naughty Member. There, you can find other couples, look at their profile, send friend requests and even set up meeting dates. You can see and talk to each other via webcam and iron out all the details on Naughty Chat before you come to the event. By the time you're ready to meet each other in person, you'll have established a connection and gotten to know each other a little bit. 

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